How to Get Your Ex Back: Strategy #3

This is the fouth post in my series on how to get your ex back. If you missed the first 3 posts, you can find them here:

5 Strategies to Help You Win Back Your Ex

To Get Your Ex Back, Be Strong

To Get Back With Your Ex, Give Some Space

Today, let's talk about the third strategy - being flexible.

Often, when we're dealing with relationship problems, we resort to ultimatums. We start barking orders like, "Get the trash out before morning, or I'm dumping it in the driveway!" Well, those kinds of things just usually don't work very well... and they might be part of the reason why your ex left in the first place.

If you've done this in the past (and be honest with yourself - trying to fool yourself isn't going to do anyone any good), yu're going to have to learn a little flexibility. Not only that, but you're going to have to demonstrate to your ex that you've softened a bit, too.

One way you can demonstrate this is very simple (yet very powerful) - listening. Just listening to what your ex has to say, without judgment or prejudice, will go a long way toward helping you get back your ex.

This doesn't just mean looking at your ex and tuning him or her out. You're not fooling anyone - he or she will quickly figure out that you're hearing, but not listening. You actually need to consider what your ex is saying, even if it's not particularly pleasant, and respind with empathy and compassion.

Your ex deserves to be listened to. His or her opinions and feelings are important. And even if your ex needs to tell you about things you've done wrong, understand that he or she dislikes your actions - not you. You can change... and listening to your ex gives you the information you need to know exactly how to change.

Next time, we'll talk about a strategy for getting your ex back that is actually fun (hey, we can't work all the time)!

How to Get Your Ex Back: 5 Strategies

Trying to get your ex back without a clear-cut strategy is a horrible idea. Almost invariably, trying to "wing-it" will just end up driving your ex further away, and will just make you feel worse.

In this series of posts, we'll look at 5 strategies you can use to get your ex back. You'll have to be ready and willing to implement these strategies, though... I've talked to many people who say, "Well, yeah, I can use one or two of these strategies... but the others just aren't going to work."

This is just stubbornness talking. People always want to think that they're right. But take a minute and ponder this question: If you knew everything there was to know about getting your ex back, you and your ex wouldn't have split in the first place.

I don't mean to sound harsh when I say that. I'm only saying it because I want you to get your ex back. It saddens me to see so many broken relationships and divorces, particularly in times like these where other things (like money and career issues) are so tough. You need someone to lean on and care for - and whether your spouse is willing to admit it or not, he or she needs you just as much.

I also care because there are so many children today dealing with the stress of broken homes. Growing up in today's society is hard enough without the added stress of being raised by parents in two different households. These kids grow up with some pretty negative ideas about relationships... and when they're old enough to get married, they're going to find it very difficult to get past the issues they dealt with as children.

You deserve to be happy. Your children deserve to be happy, and to grow up in a stable, loving home. And your ex deserves to be happy, too. So even if your ex isn't ready to give the relationship another go yet, pay attention to these strategies, and use them. They can help you start to put your marriage back together.

In my next post, we'll look at the first strategy you'll need to get your ex back. It's one of the most important things you can do to save your marriage.

Welcome to How to Get Ex Back

If you've lost your spouse bacause of marital problems, it can feel like your world has come crashing down around you. "How to Get Ex Back" is here to help you get your marriage back on track, even if you're the only one who wants to work on the relationship right now.



You see, I've been where you are now. I understand the feelings of hurt, resentment, anger, and guilt that come with a marital breakup. It's draining and utterly debilitating. You don't know where to turn, and you wish there was just some sort of "magic wand" you could wave over the siuation to make it all better again.

I can't offer you a magic wand (no one can), but I can offer you the next best thing - a plan that will help you restore your marriage, even if your ex isn't ready to start working on it yet. It does take an investment of time, energy, and yes, work... but isn't it worth it to save the relationship you and your spouse once enjoyed so much?

My best advice is to start with Dr. Lee Baucom's Save the Marriage course. It's cheaper than a dinner out, and it has helped more couples than I could count restore their relationships.

You and your spouse don't have to read it together - even if your partner isn't willing to work on the relationship right now, you can use it yourself to learn the techniques to get your ex back. Don't worry, the techniques will bring your spouse around.

After you've read Save the Marriage, be sure to check back here often - I look forward to using "How to Get Ex Back" to help you and your partner rekindle your relationship!