This is my third post in the series on how to get your ex back. In case you missed the previous posts, you can find them here:Today, let's look at the second strategy you'll need to win back your ex:
Give Your Ex Some Space
Sure, this sounds counterintuitive. We've all heard the old saying, "Out of sight, out of mind". So you'd think that you would want your ex to know you're still around, so he or she doesn't forget you, right?
Your ex is not going to forget you. He or she invested time, energy, and emotion into a relationship with you, and that's not going to fade away overnight. It's silly to think that your ex has just completely erased you from his or her mind (even though that's often exactly what we think).
Your ex needs time to work through emotions. The break up wasn't just painful for you. And you're not the only one who needs break up help to deal with this. No matter how your ex appears on the outside, he or she is dealing with a lot of different issues.
Trying to contact your ex too soon is just going to muddy the waters. Your ex hasn't had time to put everything into perspective yet, and isn't emotionally ready to tackle some of the issues that will need to be addressed before the two of you can get back together.
Contacting your ex too quickly also demonstrates neediness. I've said countless times on other blogs and websites... Your ex doesn't want someone who is an emotional mess. Appearing needy and unstable isn't going to get you anywhere. Your ex wants a partner... not someone to take care of.
Thre isn't any "magic number" that will tell you how long is long enough. A good rule of thumb is to give your ex one month before you make contact... if you had a long relationship that ended with a bout of ugly drama and temper-tantrums... your ex will probably need more time. But more importantly, you need that time too... whether you realize it or not.
Next time, we'll look at the third strategy for getting your ex back. This strategy is a challenge for both men and women... but it can make the difference between whether you get your ex back, or whether you end up alone.
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